Friday, April 26, 2013

8. What Makes a Relationship Truly Work

They say that good communication is the number one requirement in a successful relationship. However, this does not always happen. You sometimes keep things from each other because you don’t like confrontations and arguments. In the end, the frustration builds up until the gap widens. If you want to make things work, you need to bridge this gap. One way to do this is to finally open up to each other. You and your loved one need to thresh out all your feelings and opinions about something.

Hurt Isn't Always Bad

Just know that when you hurt each other, it’s a sign that you still care. Couples who have grown out of love tend to be distant and indifferent. Hence, it’s time to sit down together and make plans. If you’re about to make a decision that affects and changes your future, weigh all the options that you have. Discuss all the points. In order to do this, you need to set aside some time for the long discussion. Keep things light even if the topic is serious. This means that you need to hear each other out. See things from the other perspective and understand why people feel differently.

When it’s your turn to air out your points, make your feelings clear. This means that you need to be as honest as possible. Don’t leave out details. This might be something your partner is against, but then again, that’s why you need to make the fact that you may not always agree on something clear from the very beginning. If your partner is opposed to it, weigh the pros and cons. This is actually when you can see who makes a stronger point. All the while, be open to each other’s opinions. This may be your time to ask questions as well. The fact that you’re both ready to listen to each other already makes a world of difference. Remember this when you start to argue.

It's About Compromise

Identify a common goal. How do you see your future together? It’s nice to see that you actually are aiming for the same thing. The timetable may vary, but still, you want what’s best for the both of you. Always be sensitive to one another. This is the time where you have to be watchful of the words you use because this can really hurt the other person. When there is pain, then the whole planning process becomes more tedious. Always start by telling them that you do understand where they’re coming from. 

As you work towards making a great future as a couple, you can make things a lot easier by making sure you have your own tasks to fulfill. Duties won’t seem as daunting when you know that you actually have help along the way and that there is also someone out there looking out for you. Being a couple means that you have a partner in life and that you just can’t always think about yourself. Be selfless and make your loved one feel that you value them.

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