Friday, January 18, 2013

4. Does Your Relationship Endure the Test Of Time

Only some relationships endure the test of time. Is your relationship one such? If not, what is it that you can do to make your relationship stronger and capable of enduring the test of time? We will try to find some answers to these questions.

A relationship that endures the test of time is built on certain strong pillars to support it from falling apart in times of quakes and turmoil. Such a relationship has certain characteristics.

1)      The relationship should give content to both the parties. There are many relationships in which only one side is happy and the other side is not. Strangely the person who is happy about the relationship is not even aware that the other person is not! So, the relationship goes on well for all outward appearances. We sometimes hear people saying about people in a relationship that they should be happy since the relationship is continuing. Being physically together for long is not necessarily a sign of an enduring relationship.

2)      There should be free communication between the partners. A relationship that does not have free communication between the partners is no better than a relationship that has broken. Free communication is different from routine, formal and pretentious communication.

3)      Each partner should miss the absence of the other. If your partner is away for sometime, do you miss their absence? And does your partner miss your absence? This is one of the most reliable test of closeness in a relationship. If you and your partner fulfill this criterion, then your relationship has a chance to endure the test of time even if it is lacking some other criteria.  

Do a quick check to satisfy that your relationship passes the above three tests. If it does not, you will have to identify its weaknesses and start working on them.

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